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Thomas Prommer
Technology executive and founder, originally born in Germany but spent most of my adult life in New York and Los Angeles. Happiest when working on something meaningful, growing on every possible level, or exploring somewhere new. Looking for my intellectual, spiritual, and athletic match.
About Me
German-American dual citizen, raised internationally. I've spent two decades building tech for some of the world's most recognizable brands — while quietly running my own ventures since age 12 to enable the financial and location independence I enjoy today.
I believe the best relationships happen when you're not looking. I show up fully and honestly, and let connection happen naturally. I don't need to fall asleep next to my partner every night — but when we're together, it's with full presence. A week of mutual spiritual awakening or a spontaneous city trip means more to me than the daily couch routine. (Though that has its place too.)
Outside work, I'm prepping for my next Misogi — the Japanese philosophy of doing something really hard once a year — writing songs on guitar or piano, or spending time with a selective but intentional social circle.
I'm looking for someone who shares the mindset that the world has too much to offer to stay in one place year-round. If Bhutan or Mozambique are on your bucket list, we may be a fit. Most importantly, I'm looking for a lifelong best friend and intellectual sparring partner — someone who challenges me, grows with me, and enriches my life in unexpected ways.
Lifestyle & Interests
Fitness & Athletics
Ironman, marathon runner, HYROX competitor. Training is non-negotiable — it keeps me grounded, sharp, and honest with myself. Always chasing the next Misogi.
Travel & Global Living
Based between LA, Munich, Saigon, and Shanghai — close to family, friends, and my teams. New places fuel who I am.
Food & Culture
Street food explorer and adventurous eater. Best meals at unmarked stalls in Vietnam and late-night izakayas in Tokyo. Always open to a new culinary discovery.
Music & Songwriting
Writing songs on guitar and piano. Love jazz clubs, live music, and discovering new artists. Music is the most honest form of expression I know.
Mindfulness & Growth
Spiritual practice, morning meditation, constant evolution. I value the blend of Western drive and Eastern presence. Every year should be better than the last.
Technology & Building
I build things — apps, companies, teams. Technology is how I think. Most energized when solving hard problems or helping others see what's possible.
What I'm Looking For
The qualities that matter most to me in a partner.
Global Mindset
Desire for long-term location independence is a must. Doesn't need to be in one city to feel at home.
Self-Empowered
Has her own thing going on — built on her own terms. Location independent is a plus.
Growth Mindset
Intellectually curious and always evolving. Reads, asks big questions, and isn't afraid to be wrong.
Emotionally Mature
Communicates directly, handles conflict with grace, and doesn't play games. Secure in who she is.
Independent & Yet Connected
Values her own space as much as togetherness. Present enough to be fully there when it counts.
Adventurous Spirit
Open to spontaneous trips, new experiences, and the occasional uncomfortable adventure.
Creative — Music a Big Bonus
Has something she makes — writes, paints, designs, codes. Creation builds character in a way consumption can't. If she plays an instrument or sings, even better: making music together is one of the most bonding things two people can do.
Has a Spiritual Practice
Doesn't need to match mine — but has thought about the big questions and has her own relationship with them. Curiosity about what's beyond the material world matters to me.
Open to the Logistics
Long-distance isn't a dealbreaker if the connection is right. We'll figure it out together.
In the Spirit of Honesty
I believe the kindest thing you can do in dating is be upfront about who you are — and who you're likely not the best match for. My lifestyle and priorities are specific, and I'd rather save everyone's time by being transparent about where things probably wouldn't click.
- Nesting as the primary goal. If your main focus right now is settling into a permanent home base and building a traditional domestic life, my multi-city, travel-heavy lifestyle would likely feel unsettling rather than exciting.
- Employer-dependent lifestyle. I deeply respect anyone building a career — but if your schedule, location, and financial freedom are largely determined by an employer, our lifestyles may be hard to sync. I thrive with partners who've built a degree of autonomy over where and how they work.
- Nightlife-centered social life. If your idea of a great weekend revolves around clubs, late nights out, or regular drinking and smoking, we'd likely have very different energy levels and priorities. I'm an early riser who protects his recovery like an athlete.
- Marriage and children as primary success criteria. These are beautiful life goals — but if a relationship only feels "real" or "successful" once it leads to a ring and a family, we may not be aligned. I'm open to both, but I don't measure a partnership's worth by those milestones alone.
- A more relaxed pace of movement. I train almost daily and seek out physical challenges for fun. If fitness isn't something that energizes you, the intensity gap would likely create friction over time rather than inspiration.
- Strongly traditional role expectations. I have enormous respect for traditional values, but I'm looking for a true equal — someone who wants a partnership built on mutual independence, shared ambition, and complementary strengths rather than prescribed roles.
- Dinners as the dating bar. If a first date without a lavish dinner feels low-effort to you, we probably see things differently. My best connections have happened on active dates built around conversation — a long walk, a hike, a coffee that turned into three hours. I'd rather learn who you are than impress with a production number. In relationships I show up very generously, and my compatible partner considers that a two-way street — in whatever shape or form that may take.
- Comfort over growth. I'm wired to keep evolving — physically, intellectually, spiritually. If you've found your rhythm and prefer stability over reinvention, we'd likely frustrate each other rather than inspire each other.
Every single one of these is a completely valid way to live and love — they're wonderful qualities that make someone a great partner for the right person. They're just not the best fit for the specific life I've built and the kind of partnership I'm looking for. Knowing this upfront is a sign of respect, not judgment.
Think we might be a match?
If something here resonated, I'd love to hear from you. Matchmakers with a potential introduction are equally welcome.
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